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How to stop being jealous of successful people and become one instead

Here's one secret to success that you can follow to banish that 'green-eyed monster' for good.
By Daniel Dipiazza |


How many times have you caught yourself clicking through the Facebook profile pictures of a 'friend' (whom you’ve never met) at 1:37 a.m., and getting at least a teeny bit jealous because they seem to be living a much more exciting life than you, full of better looking people and more money?



And they're always on vacation. Dear God! Why are all their pictures from vacations?


Who’s giving out these cruises????


Seeing this type of stuff can be bothersome for three reasons:


First, you feel like you’re 'behind' for your age. You might see friends at 24 who were moving up the corporate ladder quickly and making what you think is big money. Other friends were doing really cool, exciting work getting doctorates or professional degrees.


Related: Here's why your envy-inducing Facebook feed is all just a big fat lie (Video)


When they ask you what you’re doing, sometimes it’s hard to give a real answer and you just say you’re trying to "figure things out” for now.


Second, you feel like nobody has your back. You know you want to start your own business, but don’t have any mentors to give solid advice or a step-by-step action plan. Nobody close enough to help you up when you fall down but all you really wanted was someone to tell you “do this, then do that.”



Unlike the corporate world or graduate school, there are really no guidelines or “best practices” for entrepreneurship. You pretty much have to figure it out yourself. That’s why it’s so scary.


Third and last, you feel like you’re in a vacuum. You could even be the only person you know in real life who wanted to be an entrepreneur. And everybody…they just wanted to clock in at work…day after day.




At this point, all you’ll want is to meet people like you. People who were driven to get more from their lives and really wanted to create something new.


People you could bounce ideas off of and wouldn’t make you feel “weird” for wanting to brainstorm or talk about personal development. It’s always easier if you could fill your entire life with the type of people that you want to be like, success was pretty much guaranteed.


Related: Richard Branson's guide to finding a mentor


Here is how you get over the jealousy. For the next few years, go out of your way to connect with other entrepreneurs who are doing amazing work. Build mentorship relationships with startup founders, millionaires and high-performers in all fields.




If you want to become one of them, you have to do whatever it took to get into their peer group. Stop being jealous of them, and start being one of them.



But it definitely won’t happen overnight. There’s a process you have to learn when approaching successful people. (Here's an exact strategy you can use to develop authentic relationships with influencers.) You just have to work at it, and when you’re finally able to cultivate a sizable community of super-high-value people around you, you’ll notice something incredible: it was almost impossible to fail.


If you had a question, doubt or fear, there is an established community of people around you who actually wants to help you. If you didn’t know which way to turn, there is a mentor on speed dial for almost any problem you might encounter.


Above everything else, there was a new level of expectation that’s put on you by those surrounding. They just expected you to be do well, and you don’t want to let them down. You’ll realize that you had the workings of an entrepreneur in you all along.



Building that community of friends and mentors is the ultimate tool to kick progress into warp speed, and probably one of the biggest reasons why you’ll be able to move from a day job to self-employment so quickly.


Related: Can you afford to quit your day job?



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