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3 ways psychotherapy can make an entrepreneur limitless

Unshakable beliefs, good coping strategies, and a strong social circle provide solid support for any entrepreneur.
By Vineel Maharaj |

When people hear the word psychotherapy, a few thoughts come to mind. They imagine a dark, spacious room, a comfy couch, and a mysterious person in a turtleneck wearing bifocals writing on a yellow notepad. Once successful, therapy allows you to notice what is not working. You can then take the suggestions you are given and make the necessary changes to become a healthier person.

 

Contrary to common belief, during my psychotherapy experience, the room I was in was well lit with art hanging on the wall, but the contrasts did not stop there. Because therapy was mandatory in graduate school if I wanted to become a psychotherapist, I attended sessions regularly.

 

It took me two years in graduate school to learn the keys to changing my life and help others change their lives for better. 

 

Related: Need to vent? Forget the couch, startup moves therapy online

 

These “keys” are no secret. They involve your beliefs, coping tactics, and social circle. If you keep reading you will learn how you can easily use these keys to your advantage.

 

Even though I had finished graduate school a couple of years ago, it was after graduation that I fell back in love with entrepreneurship and startups. I was especially intrigued by marketing and advertising roles, since I was already a marketing copywriter consultant.

 

One thing I have seen consistent with entrepreneurs is delusions or bipolar-like tendencies. I guess it comes with the territory and may work to our advantage when we measure goals.

 

Let us take a step back.

 

What about those bad days where you can hardly think or work? Those dark lonely times when we cry in quiet desperation?

 

In those moments it is tough to focus and it is easy to lose confidence. I have been there myself, but what I find works is a solid foundation of the following:

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1. Unshakable belief system

It was Buddha who said: "As you think you shall become." Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can't then you're right.” So, it is safe to say there is a cause and effect.

 

As social creatures, we adapt our knowledge based on what is heard and experienced. Sometimes this information is inaccurate, unrealistic, doubtful, or a ploy to rattle you.

 

This may sound like silly self-help mumbo jumbo, but not having the best beliefs limit what you allow yourself to do. This is especially true when people are neglecting your ability to progress, or you are second guessing yourself.

 

New positive beliefs would look like this:

 

I am confident.

I love myself.

I can handle this, and if not, I will get help.

One bad moment, or a series of bad moments, does not dictate my life.

I deserve to win.

I will not focus on negative people and allow them to waste my time.

I will win.

If I try my hardest and it does not work, I will move on.

 

Ever use affirmations or mantras?

 

This is exactly it. If you are worried about “faking it before you make it” then you are right. Look at it this way; it is always uncomfortable trying something new.

 

Related: Some people have a therapist. I have a business coach

 

Remember when you were learning how to drive or ride a bike? You modeled the techniques of good drivers and riders to become comfortable.

 

One last thing on beliefs, the crappy ones, they are called cognitive distortions. They come after beliefs and mess up our interpretation of the world. Here is a helpful list.  

 

 

2. Swift coping strategy

In 2013, I was an extern at a behavioral center for individuals facing opiate addiction, depression, suicide ideation, and other forms of mental illnesses. During my extern, I conducted hour long psycho-education seminars with clients using an evidence-based framework called Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT). Aside from beliefs, I taught them to focus on their coping strategy for trauma. Coping takes the form of:

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Getting treatment or taking any medicine you may need.

 

Never self-medicating with drugs or alcohol for your situation because those are short fixes to a larger problem.

 

Having hobbies: reading, hiking, listening to music, a hot bath, or writing. I also recommend meditation and use the free resource.  

 

As an entrepreneur, your experience may be a loss of a co-founder, issues with an employee, or lack of venture capital funding. These depressing moments need self-care, otherwise they can grow out of hand and influence your work.

 

 

3. Impenetrable social support

During my experience at the behavioral center, I was always reminded that changing beliefs and coping are only two-thirds of the battle.

 

If an addict goes back home to the same addiction-riddled home, possibility of improvement is slim to none. On the other hand, if he surrounds himself with positive friends and family, then their safety net reinforces a better outcome. The same goes for entrepreneurs.

 

Sometimes the best thing you can do is call up a pal and vent your heart out. After the ranting ends, it is important to look at the bigger picture of future results.

 

The questions you need to ask yourself:

 

What’s next for me this month?

The next 3 months?

The next 6 months?

 

Then you will want to break down these monthly goals into small objectives which you can cross off the list. I suggest using your professional peers as accountability for reaching goals. Their role acts as a sponsor and in some cases a mentor.

 

Related: Coping with anxiety, finding support: One entrepreneur's story


Simple enough, right?

 

Put these into play, and in time, I guarantee you will come out as a winner.

 

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This article originally appeared on Entrepreneur.com. Minor edits have been done by the Entrepreneur.com.ph editors.

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