Oftentimes, would-be entrepreneurs have great ideas for potential businesses but become paralyzed and easily discouraged when it comes to actual planning and implementation. Entrepreneur.com.ph asked U.S. certified life coach Andrea Goseco for tips on how entrepreneurs can overcome mental roadblocks commonly associated with launching and maintaining a business.
Q: I am having a difficult time working with my business partner. How do I handle our differences?
A: Working with a partner who you don’t agree with can be stressful. Instead of being productive, you end up spending your time arguing on your differences. Your business partner is someone you work with closely so it is important to diffuse tensions. What should you do to make your relationship work?
Here are several tips that should help you deal with a difficult partner:
1. Your partner’s behavior is probably caused by her underlying values and beliefs.
Look for patterns whenever you have arguments. Are there certain things that she’s sensitive about? What caused her to react that way? If she is angry about a situation, try to find out what made her react this way. Get the root cause to be able to understand her better.
2. Don’t dwell on the situation but look for solution.
The problem gets bigger when you think about the situation more. Learn to be objective about the situation and let go. Whenever emotions get in the way, it’s difficult to think of the best solution. There may be a chance that you won’t think of the best solution when you use your emotions.
3. Focus on the strengths that you and your partner have to be able to come up with a solution to the problem.
Your differences can be used to your advantage. You are able to see all angles to a problem when you put your strengths together. Solving the problem together will make you learn from each other.
4. Don’t focus on the need to be right.
If you focus on changing the opinion of your partner, you are not able to understand the situation well and listen to the other side of the story. It makes it more difficult to find a solution when you are focused on the outcome. Keep in mind that you should not judge and allow yourself to be open to your partner’s opinion.
5. Don’t blame your partner for mistakes.
It’s a natural for a person to act defensive when someone uses an accusing tone. What you want to happen is for her to realize her own contribution to the problem. Think like a detective. You can ask her questions that will help her realize the facts. Give her different scenarios and ask her about the possible results of her decisions. It’s more powerful to draw answers out of a person than to tell them where they went wrong.
Moving forward, it’s time to put all these tips into action. Set a meeting and give the agenda on what you need to talk about. Remember that it is important to ask her questions and listen to what she has to say.
Don’t judge her right away and try to understand where she’s coming from. You may have differences but you still share the same goal to make your business successful.